Men Rescue - No More Lonely Nights

CHAPTER 1

The ABCs of Dating Women

Why Has Dating Become So Complicated?

The only answer I can give you is that dating people has become more complicated because both, men and women, now have more options from where to choose. In the old days, people didn’t have the technology we have today, so their options were limited. The internet has changed everything, even the way we fall in love!

Let me explain the above in more detail. Let’s say that John and Jane have been consistently dating for 2 months, and they both seem to be having a great time together wherever they go. Well, that’s what we see, so that’s what we believe, correct? But what if I tell you that behind the scenes, Jane’s ex-boyfriend and John’s ex-girlfriend are constantly texting Jane and John, and besides all the on-going texting, Jane is friends with her ex on Facebook, and so is John with his ex. Plus they constantly see pictures of their exes. If that wasn’t enough, both Jane and John each have an active dating profile where they are messaged by people they don’t even know, complimenting them on their looks, and attractiveness on a daily basis. Do you get the point? In the old days, people didn’t have the technology we have today, so they didn’t have as many distractions.

In today’s world, if someone wants to reach out to you, all they need to do is to punch some keys on their cellphone or computer. That’s why dating has become so complicated, because men and women not only face the challenges of the traditional dating cycle, but also those that technology presents in our everyday lives. In my opinion, technology has been responsible for more break-ups than make-ups in the last 20 years. Most of my data shows that break-ups involve finding evidence or proof of “cheating” via cellphones.

Nonetheless, stories of true love and good relationships still happen everywhere. I want to remind all men that when a woman shows interest in going out on a date with you, please be appreciative. She could’ve said no! A yes means she is genuinely interested in you!

“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.” (Shannon L. Alder)

Every time we can make a choice it’s because we are given options; and when there are options, there is also competition. Before you go out there looking for someone special, I need you to understand what I believe is the key to all successful dating stories:

“You will manage to keep a woman in love with you, only for as long as you can keep her in love with the person she becomes when she is with you.”
(C. JoyBell C.)

Regardless, if you are a faithful and serious man or just a player, nobody can escape the fact that at some point you’ll meet someone that will rock your world…so get ready! My job as Dating Coach is to prepare you for both situations - the process of dating people, and the process of dating the one for you. These are two separate processes, nonetheless, in today’s world they highly depend on each other for better results.

“The right woman doesn’t make you love her; she makes you love everything” (Michael Whone)

It makes it easier in today’s world to find that special person once you have understood the principles of proper dating etiquette. Women usually reject men who behave awkwardly, who lack common sense, whose mouths have no filter, or who seem shady, or weird.

Men who lack effective dating skills, and proper dating etiquette are often alone with no one to share life with. It’s not because they are bad people, but because they are clueless about how to treat a woman. I share on this book my Men Rescue dating principles to help them solve that problem.

The 3 Things You will Need to Have Before Going Out on a Date

Before you even think about going out there looking for that special woman, there are 3 additional things you will need to have, and they are:

1. Some Money to Spend
2. Time for Dating
3. A Very Good Memory!

Dating a woman is an investment. As such, it requires money. How much money depends on how badly you want to please or impress the woman. You need to understand that if you are not ready to pay for the first few dates in full, you better wait until you can! And it is okay to wait. Why? Because unless you come across as a man who is in good shape (this includes being in a good shape financially) you won’t make a positive first impression. That’s the way the game goes boys, nothing I can do!

You will need time! A lot of men don’t really understand what I mean when I say this. Dating is very time consuming… even exhausting at times! You may have to date several people until you find the one who seems right for you. You also need to be respectful and accommodating to her schedule. If a woman you are interested in tells you that she can see you this coming Friday…you better be there. If you come up with answers such as “I have to work this Friday, but can meet next week,” she will give you a chance or two. However, if she sees you don’t have time to meet when she can, you will come across as a person who simply DOES NOT HAVE ANY TIME to get involved in a relationship. My advice is that you establish from the beginning the dates and times that you are available for dating. Don’t worry, I assure you that there is a woman out there for you who has the exact same schedule you have. Time is never the real problem, but availability and distance usually are.

Ok, you have money and time on your side. That’s great, but there is one more important aspect of the Dating Cycle. It calls for having the right touch and, actually, a good memory.

Women have incredible memories when it comes to remembering what men say. For this reason, a man needs to be able to remember what he actually says to her – no matter how small. Most men get in trouble with women, not because of something they did, but because they forgot something they said! If you ask a woman how did she realize that “he was lying” she will say, “He first said this, and later told me something completely different” Do you get the point? You need to have a good memory, period!

The 3 Things You will Need to Make a Woman Feel Before She Agrees to Go Out with You

If you can make a woman feel the following 3 things, your chances of getting her attention and agreeing to go out on a date are much higher:

Make her feel beautiful

Make her feel special

Make her feel safe around you!

“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love” (Mandy Hale)

While feeling beautiful or special is important to women, feeling safe around a man is a thousand times more important! This is why you can give a woman you don’t know several compliments that she would really welcome and appreciate, but she still won’t go out with you. Why? Because she doesn’t know you; therefore, she doesn’t feel safe around you. It’s that simple!

You need to make her feel beautiful because it is every woman’s desire to look as beautiful as she can, and be complimented about it. Even though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it pays off to make a woman feel beautiful.

“No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written across her face, she will be beautiful” (Eleanor Roosevelt)

Don’t keep it to yourself. If you think a woman you feel attracted to is beautiful, and the circumstances allow, go ahead and let her know. Do it in a polite and delicate way; make sure you don’t come across as a creepy or weird guy when you say it. You’ll be surprised how a woman will pay more attention to you if she likes what you say to her.

Your compliments should always be nice and casual. Never say any sexual jokes to a woman you don’t know. When you compliment a woman make sure you look her in the eye. Either she feels uncomfortable and stays away from you, or she likes it and gives you a chance to tell her more about how wonderful and beautiful she is.

TIME FOR YOUR FIRST EXERCISE BOYS!

Within a one-week period, every time you see a woman, look at her hands and check if she has a wedding ring on her finger. Why? Because I want you to get in the habit of quickly identifying if that woman is available or not. Before you say a word to a woman you don’t know, I want you to always make sure that she is not married! The exercise is completed once you have checked the ring fingers of 100 women in seven days.

Too many times I see men talking to and complimenting women who are married. They get distracted by how beautiful they are. Any woman, married or not, would welcome nice compliments. The problem is that eventually (usually a few seconds or minutes later) they will let you know they are married. Suddenly you realize that you just wasted your time. Sometimes you even feel stupid…and the situation usually turns awkward. That’s why I need you to train your eye to immediately identify a woman who is available from those who are not.

You may say “Cal, even though she is married, she isn’t into me!” Personally, I am not a fan of going after married women, nor taking away my brother’s, cousin’s, neighbor’s, or friend’s woman. I...